traveling together, anything was possible
I dreamed Mark and Casey were curled up together under a sheet (like Cathy & Heathcliff) and someone was saying how they were made for each other. Save me!
Later, M and I were in another country (Argentina?) and had been there for a long visit. The plane was going soon, very soon. We’d been apart for a while, but M was back and we were trying to get all our gear together. I took a last glance through the closet and found all his clothes there, most of them drying on the clothes horse. I pulled them out bunch by bunch and handed them to him, hoping he could fit them in his bag. I kept finding bits I hadn’t packed (chocolate, a frozen but un-refrigerated piece of meat, large, like a bag of firewood). My bag was small, like an overnight bag. I had to get my boots on. The tickets were buried in my bag… The stress of it all.
These dreams say the obvious: I miss Marky, and we were made for each other. I wasn’t packed or prepared for his death – our death. Neither of us was ready. His clothes are still in the closet. In the dream we were meant to go together on this trip, this return home, even though we’d been apart for a while at first. Traveling together was the plan.
Recently, driving upstate, I remembered the last time I drove that route – the weekend before he died. He used to drive the car – our car – my car. Then I was remembering the month I spent with him in Englandland, before he moved to Gotham. Like the time we went to the movies in Staines and RP bought Casey a child price ticket. All that time there was pain – pain of uncertainty, pain of separation, pain of change – but all of it was within this enormous sea of love and good things and hope for life, of comfort at having found him of… – I don’t even know how to explain how life and the living of it changed just knowing he was in the world and that he loved me back. In some way it made anything seem possible.
