why I sometimes despair
I feel despair, more than sometimes, at the prospect of ever finding a second husband. One thing that makes it seem even more hopeless is contemplating how non-overlapping certain aspects of my character are. This venn diagram shows what I mean (not to scale):
This doesn’t take into account the many other factors that make someone’s sensibility, humor, heart, intellect, habits, playfulness and imagination compatible with mine, let alone age, availability, location, etc. You can be friends with plenty of people who don’t share your politics, religion, and/or sexuality, but can you marry them? For me at least, I think there has to be a lot of overlap.
June 15th, 2009 at 5:22 pm
Casey,
I figured I would get home and there would be a million responses already, but I guess I’m lucky and get to be number 1.
Anyhow – I don’t think you need to worry – but I’m sure you hear that a lot. If not – even though you have high standards for a future husband, there are a lot of people in this world – a couple of billion, and .01% of them is still a lot to choose from.
And, don’t force the issue. You will find what you are looking for when you find it.
I too am guilty of wondering if I will ever be happy again, but for the most part, I just keep pushing along and am happy for what I do have.
I’ll just leave it at that -