Comments on: dispatch from the edge http://www.caseymorgan.org/2009/07/dispatch-from-the-edge/ whacking, bereavement, God, etc. Wed, 10 Mar 2010 02:18:13 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Justin B http://www.caseymorgan.org/2009/07/dispatch-from-the-edge/comment-page-1/#comment-273 Justin B Wed, 15 Jul 2009 15:18:50 +0000 http://www.caseymorgan.org/?p=641#comment-273 Dearest Casey Thank you so much for postings some of your thoughts. I think of you and Marky a lot .... Much love anf hugs Justinxxx Dearest Casey

Thank you so much for postings some of your thoughts. I think of you and Marky a lot ….

Much love anf hugs

Justinxxx

]]> By: frenchies http://www.caseymorgan.org/2009/07/dispatch-from-the-edge/comment-page-1/#comment-261 frenchies Fri, 10 Jul 2009 18:31:17 +0000 http://www.caseymorgan.org/?p=641#comment-261 Dear Casey, I am sorry you feel these emotions and I wish there was some way to just will the grief you feel away. For what it is worth I have lost a loved one, and reading your posts have taken me back to my mourning as well. But not in a negative way. I feel that by reading your words I am justified in what I once termed my self-pitying moments. I hope you find a peaceful place and know that the one you've lost and God are both very hopeful you will find joy and pleasure in life again. You deserve it. Please keep writing, because yes I consider us friends, even if its only through our words. best wishes and lots of kisses frenchies Dear Casey,
I am sorry you feel these emotions and I wish there was some way to just will the grief you feel away. For what it is worth I have lost a loved one, and reading your posts have taken me back to my mourning as well.

But not in a negative way. I feel that by reading your words I am justified in what I once termed my self-pitying moments. I hope you find a peaceful place and know that the one you’ve lost and God are both very hopeful you will find joy and pleasure in life again. You deserve it.

Please keep writing, because yes I consider us friends, even if its only through our words.

best wishes and lots of kisses
frenchies

]]> By: kannakat http://www.caseymorgan.org/2009/07/dispatch-from-the-edge/comment-page-1/#comment-246 kannakat Tue, 07 Jul 2009 16:50:46 +0000 http://www.caseymorgan.org/?p=641#comment-246 Dear Casey, I'm really sad when I read of your grief. I hope you do go to the party - you'll see, there are plenty of gentle people who could be good to you. And there will be someone, somewhere, ready to love you too, when the time comes, when your heart recovers, (which it will.) Grieving is a dirty business and it takes time. I hope that soon you will begin to see the glimmers of daylight. Until then, take it easy, and God bless you! Best wishes from kannakat Dear Casey, I’m really sad when I read of your grief. I hope you do go to the party – you’ll see, there are plenty of gentle people who could be good to you. And there will be someone, somewhere, ready to love you too, when the time comes, when your heart recovers, (which it will.)
Grieving is a dirty business and it takes time. I hope that soon you will begin to see the glimmers of daylight. Until then, take it easy, and God bless you!
Best wishes from kannakat

]]> By: cdm http://www.caseymorgan.org/2009/07/dispatch-from-the-edge/comment-page-1/#comment-245 cdm Tue, 07 Jul 2009 13:08:36 +0000 http://www.caseymorgan.org/?p=641#comment-245 Rad, Your gravatar would look striking enlarged & blue-tacked to a dorm-room wall. Or maybe looming over the BQE, lol. Now all you need is a catchy slogan! Rad,
Your gravatar would look striking enlarged & blue-tacked to a dorm-room wall. Or maybe looming over the BQE, lol. Now all you need is a catchy slogan!

]]> By: cdm http://www.caseymorgan.org/2009/07/dispatch-from-the-edge/comment-page-1/#comment-244 cdm Tue, 07 Jul 2009 13:03:26 +0000 http://www.caseymorgan.org/?p=641#comment-244 Lanyo, Thanks for posting. ;-) I'm really sorry about R. I can imagine that losing a lover when things aren't settled between you would be worse in its own way - so much unresolved between you. Actually, I don't think you can rank grief. It hurts for everyone according to their heart. Hugs! Lanyo,
Thanks for posting. ;-) I’m really sorry about R. I can imagine that losing a lover when things aren’t settled between you would be worse in its own way – so much unresolved between you. Actually, I don’t think you can rank grief. It hurts for everyone according to their heart. Hugs!

]]> By: Sandy Park http://www.caseymorgan.org/2009/07/dispatch-from-the-edge/comment-page-1/#comment-242 Sandy Park Tue, 07 Jul 2009 02:44:21 +0000 http://www.caseymorgan.org/?p=641#comment-242 Dear Casey, I wish I would be here this weekend to meet you. I really love your writing and your honesty. It does helps others when you tell the truth like that. And I hope it helps you a little too. Don't be nervous about the party. There are enough good, fun people there that you will have a good time. You seem smart enough -- I don't have to tell you that you don't have to play if you don't want to. I don't know your play style so I don't know who to recommend, I can only tell you my favorites (and I'm not going to name names here). Rad will also help you out with introductions. Hang in there, keep talking, think about temporary meds if you haven't already. Eventually it won't be as sharp a pain. Sandy Dear Casey, I wish I would be here this weekend to meet you. I really love your writing and your honesty. It does helps others when you tell the truth like that. And I hope it helps you a little too. Don’t be nervous about the party. There are enough good, fun people there that you will have a good time. You seem smart enough — I don’t have to tell you that you don’t have to play if you don’t want to. I don’t know your play style so I don’t know who to recommend, I can only tell you my favorites (and I’m not going to name names here). Rad will also help you out with introductions.

Hang in there, keep talking, think about temporary meds if you haven’t already. Eventually it won’t be as sharp a pain.

Sandy

]]> By: Peter http://www.caseymorgan.org/2009/07/dispatch-from-the-edge/comment-page-1/#comment-237 Peter Mon, 06 Jul 2009 23:45:55 +0000 http://www.caseymorgan.org/?p=641#comment-237 Casey, Don't apologise for posting. If we choose to read what you write it is because we like what we have seen of you, we are interested in you and we want, and pray, that you will find your way through this grieving process. We have never met, but from what I have read of yours, I am certain that there are decent men out there who are only waiting to discover you and focus their love on you. Bereavement cannot be trivialised, of course, and it will be life changing. However, you have the first year behind you and hopefully the next year will bring you to a better place. Please take some comfort that you are the one hardest done by, your husband is at peace and I think that you believe that he is aware of you and of your capacity to celebrate what he taught you. Myself and my wife have sometimes discussed what we would do if one of us pre-deceased the other. We have always, independently, stressed our wish that the survivor would pay us the compliment of finding another partner worthy of our memory, rather than disappearing into a grey widowhood. I don't live in New York, and we have been there rarely, but if I were, I would be honoured to meet you, chat, listen to you, and even, maybe, play a little. Peter Casey,

Don’t apologise for posting. If we choose to read what you write it is because we like what we have seen of you, we are interested in you and we want, and pray, that you will find your way through this grieving process.

We have never met, but from what I have read of yours, I am certain that there are decent men out there who are only waiting to discover you and focus their love on you.

Bereavement cannot be trivialised, of course, and it will be life changing. However, you have the first year behind you and hopefully the next year will bring you to a better place. Please take some comfort that you are the one hardest done by, your husband is at peace and I think that you believe that he is aware of you and of your capacity to celebrate what he taught you.

Myself and my wife have sometimes discussed what we would do if one of us pre-deceased the other. We have always, independently, stressed our wish that the survivor would pay us the compliment of finding another partner worthy of our memory, rather than disappearing into a grey widowhood.

I don’t live in New York, and we have been there rarely, but if I were, I would be honoured to meet you, chat, listen to you, and even, maybe, play a little.

Peter

]]> By: Radagast http://www.caseymorgan.org/2009/07/dispatch-from-the-edge/comment-page-1/#comment-235 Radagast Mon, 06 Jul 2009 22:22:17 +0000 http://www.caseymorgan.org/?p=641#comment-235 Please do not let my angst encrusted angst make you feel that way. I am an overthinker by nature, walking through life like Woody Allen worrying about every single thing. If I, someone with shitty social skills, can survive in the scene then certainly someone as articulate as you can as well. I should be the poster child for a person overcoming shyness and social anxiety. Please do not let my angst encrusted angst make you feel that way. I am an overthinker by nature, walking through life like Woody Allen worrying about every single thing. If I, someone with shitty social skills, can survive in the scene then certainly someone as articulate as you can as well. I should be the poster child for a person overcoming shyness and social anxiety.

]]> By: lanyo http://www.caseymorgan.org/2009/07/dispatch-from-the-edge/comment-page-1/#comment-234 lanyo Mon, 06 Jul 2009 22:19:46 +0000 http://www.caseymorgan.org/?p=641#comment-234 I'm never sure if I'm glad or not that I never met R's family until the week he died. He was not my husband, and that week I found that I wasn't even his only girlfriend. I had plans. We had plans. That was the week I was to lay everything out for him. I was going to see if he wanted to get that condo together we kept talking about, make him force the specialists to schedule his surgery. I have nowhere near the loss you have, but it hurts when you talk of it, like a slowing healing wound, and I hope it helps me understand mine too. I’m never sure if I’m glad or not that I never met R’s family until the week he died. He was not my husband, and that week I found that I wasn’t even his only girlfriend. I had plans. We had plans. That was the week I was to lay everything out for him. I was going to see if he wanted to get that condo together we kept talking about, make him force the specialists to schedule his surgery.
I have nowhere near the loss you have, but it hurts when you talk of it, like a slowing healing wound, and I hope it helps me understand mine too.

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