supplicium post mortem

When I was little, my family went to a local amusement park once each summer. It was called Boblo Island, and it was on a little island in the middle of the river. You would drive Downtown and board an old-fashioned river boat, one with wooden dance floors and windows selling cotton candy, and you would ride this boat an hour or so out to Boblo Island, where you would disembark for the day. Boblo was a good amusement park with kiddie rides and adult rides, but although it occupied the entire island, it wasn’t as extensive or as ambitious as places like Cedar Point or today’s Six Flags parks. Still, I remember entirely happy times there, on rides like the swings or the flume or the tilt-a-whirl.

The Comet

For years and years—into my 20′s—when I would get scared or very unhappy, I would summon to mind Boblo Island to soothe myself. I got into a habit in my 20′s of staying up far too late at night and subsequently freaking myself out with fear of ghosts. When this happened, I’d think: Boblo. Boblo! and I could avert a panic attack. I haven’t called upon the Boblo talisman in years, though; I don’t think it holds sway any more.

The other day, while I was kicking around the corridors of bereaved quasi-madness, the dogs informed me that regardless of my mental, spiritual, or emotional state, they still required their evening walk. Teary-eyed, I leashed them up and we went round the block.

I felt fragile, hung-over from crying, and not entirely in control. My mind ranged to friends I could call, but found none that seemed appropriate at that moment. Then my mind embarked on a fantasy involving some friends I visited this summer. It’s weird to fantasize about your friends; it’s the kind of thing you don’t confess out loud. You wouldn’t want your friends to think you were obsessed with them, or unattractively unstable, or clingy-needy-gross. But I suspect a lot of us do this secretly.

As my dogs were sniffing their way around the block, I was imagining going to the cottage where I had visited these friends of mine. It was cold and rainy around the block, and it would be cold and rainy at the cottage, too. My friends, the couple who owned the cottage, would welcome me, in my ragged, teary, distraught state. She would enfold me somehow and speak to me soothingly and incomprehensibly in Irish, and then make me sit in front of the turf fire while she prepared something for me to drink. He would secure the cottage and assure me that everything was quite safe, that nothing bad was going to happen there, and he would fetch me a dog to pet and cuddle. The two of them would sit with me and not say very much, although she would periodically come out with an unexpected, impulsive remark that would make me cry because it was so shiningly true. They would treat me half as their child and half as their friend. The rain would blow against the window panes, and the dog would be damp, and I would be safe and soothed and understood, and uncrowded there in the cottage with my friends who were in some ways so close, and yet distant enough that I could be entirely myself with them.

That is the kind of secret Boblo Island that comes to me now, when I am 41 years old and so very grown up, and don’t know what I am doing in the world.